Making New Friends

“Let’s meet for a coffee!”

If I had a penny for every time I heard a Mum say that and never see it through…

Even before I had my own child, I often heard my friends tell me all about how they would often meet new mums, provisionally plan something, and never hear back! I found this behaviour fairly odd and never quite understood why someone would do that to another human being.

Raising a child is a lonely business, whether you’re a single parent or not. When someone shows the intention of becoming your potential friend and then disappears, it can only make you feel even more lonely.

pexels-photo-414645.jpegI had the sad pleasure of experiencing this ‘let’s meet’ scenario.

I recently met a fellow new Mum and after a brief conversation, she asked me for my number so we could meet for a coffee. I agreed and gave her my number. Eloise is getting older now and I feel like I really need to start socialising, so I am trying my best to be less of an introvert. I was very pleased with my exchange with the fellow Mum and was looking forward to her message as she told me she would message me later that day to arrange a date and time. I let a couple of days pass by and when I didn’t hear anything, I dropped her a quick text to see if we could meet for coffee.

A week later, I got a reply. Explaining how she doesn’t use her phone much. It’s 2018 and you don’t use your phone much? Sure. I still give people the benefit of the doubt. Everyone is different and maybe she genuinely isn’t a phone-friendly person. I just don’t think I will be responding to her again. I am pretty straightforward and if someone isn’t interested in doing what they say they want to do, I respect that and move ahead.

Is this normal though? Is this what mums do to each other?  I’m sure I will meet like-minded people along the way.

Have you had this happen to you? What did you do? Or are you the person who usually intends to make friends but is unable to see it through due to an issue? anxiety perhaps? I’d love to hear what you think!

 

5 thoughts on “Making New Friends

  1. Nice post 🙂

    On Sat, Feb 17, 2018 at 1:14 PM, Bonita Bennett wrote:

    > RetroMrsB posted: “”Let’s meet for a coffee!” If I had a penny for every > time I heard a Mum say that and never see it through… Even before I had > my own child, I often heard my friends tell me all about how they would > often meet new mums, provisionally plan something, an” >

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  2. This is crazy, I just posted about this issue as well. I think meeting mom friends can be the most lonely and frustrating thing! I think maybe when you’re in that initial moment of meeting and clicking with another mom the idea of getting coffee and hanging out seems great, but then once you get home and you have to follow through with the plans-which will end up including your kids as well of course, then maybe it just becomes more of a chore? Or it could be due to anxiety for a lot of moms too! I love your daughter’s name by the way.

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    1. Indeed. You’re right though, a lot of mums suffer from anxiety and it does feel like a chore to arrange something. At the same time, I think if a Mum is really lonely and wants to go out and meet people, she finds a way to do it. Especially if she’s adamant about it. However, if it’s not urgent, it gets put on the mental list of things to do later. Does that make sense? Surely, I’m not the only one making mental lists all day long? 😂

      Thank you 😊

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